Continuing on my dating life stories from yesterday\u2026<\/p>\n
Here\u2019s another for your bad self:<\/p>\n
One of the many girls I dated after the ex-copywriting apprentice and I parted ways last summer was a girl who loves New Zealand. She has a bunch of friends there, work there, and other support there. She also was being pursued by a guy who really wanted her to move back there so he could take another shot at \u2018dat azz. In fact, when her and I were dating she would try to get me to be more interested in her by talking about that every now and then.<\/p>\n
The old \u201clet\u2019s make this guy jealous so he\u2019ll commit\u201d routine.<\/p>\n
Unfortunately for her, elBenbo is far more adept at these games than she is.<\/p>\n
(It drives girls crazy how when they are testing me, I am actually testing them and always pull out whatever horse shyt they are hiding, while hiding all my horse shyt safely out of sight \u2014 you can\u2019t out-villain elBenbo, ladies\u2026)<\/p>\n
Where was I?<\/p>\n
Oh yeah, I remember:<\/p>\n
So one day we were hanging out and she does it again:<\/p>\n
\u201cI love New Zealand and want to go back, but I\u2019m really liking my life here now with my job and meeting you\u2026\u201d yada yada yada.<\/p>\n
My answer?<\/p>\n
Well, I can tell you it wasn\u2019t \u201cno, please, stay, and here\u2019s why\u2026\u201d<\/p>\n
Just the opposite.<\/p>\n
I told her she should go back.<\/p>\n
I told her I am the wrong guy for her, and I\u2019m not going to be committing to her any time soon if ever. (Yes, I literally used those words, which was the truth.) I also said, she should not only go back, but try to make things work out with that ex-boyfriend there. He realized he made a mistake, wants her back, wants her a helluva lot more than I do, and she should seriously consider going back there\u2026<\/p>\n
In essence, I was trying to get her to tell me \u201cno.\u201d<\/p>\n
Not as a “tactic” though, but out of transparency.<\/p>\n
(Every word I told her was true.)<\/p>\n
Now why would I do this?<\/p>\n
Because I try to live life by principles, not tactics.<\/p>\n
And one principle I live by is the power of the word \u201cno.\u201d<\/p>\n
(Hat tip to the late Jim Camp\u2026)<\/p>\n
Trying to get a no is one of the best ways ever invented to get the truth out of someone, get everyone\u2019s cards on the table, eliminate any confusion, and, keep life as simple as possible.<\/p>\n
So what happened?<\/p>\n
That, my little droogie is revealed in the February \u201cEmail Players\u201d issue.<\/p>\n
And, it accompanies an extremely profitable and valuable lesson for anyone who sells (in any medium \u2014 emails, copywriting, phone, belly-to-belly, video, etc) for a living. In fact, it\u2019s one of the single most profitable lessons I can ever impart on someone \u2014 especially if you are someone who struggles getting sales or clients, or just wants to amp up your current sales.<\/p>\n
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