{"id":12308,"date":"2017-08-28T18:50:37","date_gmt":"2017-08-29T01:50:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/?p=12308"},"modified":"2017-08-28T18:50:37","modified_gmt":"2017-08-29T01:50:37","slug":"the-pathological-fear-of-selling-in-guru-dom","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/the-pathological-fear-of-selling-in-guru-dom\/","title":{"rendered":"The Pathological Fear Of Selling In Guru-dom"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cEmail Players\u201d subscriber and lawyer Alp Turan exposes the pathological fear of selling that drives practically all the popular marketing trainings the goo-roo fanboys get chubbies over.<\/p>\n<p>There are at least 5 Valuable lessons (some obvious, some not so) embedded in his testimonial.<\/p>\n<p>See if you can catch them all:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Here is how I would summarize the benefit of subscribing to your paid newsletter:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>1) You sold me on the idea of emailing my list daily.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>As dumb as it sounds, the idea that I *could* do this had never occurred to me. And once it did, I had to be sold on the idea of bending your strategy around the white hot centre of your list and not the trolls on the fringes who unsubscribe.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>2) A sense of kinship.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Previously, whenever I spoke to an online marketing expert, they always treated my way of doing things with contempt.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Because I am from the Mediterranean (and ergo: rather hotheaded), I actually ended up telling these \u201cbig names\u201d very directly that:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>a) I don\u2019t intend to take business advice from a man who has never made good money in anything other than teaching other people how to teach other people how to teach other people how to make money online.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>b) That frankly, the idea that I don\u2019t know how to sell is absurd.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>The moment you open your mouth in court, you are selling an idea to the judge. Every time you negotiate a contract, you\u2019re selling your client\u2019s point of view to the other side. Everything you do as a lawyer IS selling.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>And a lot of their convoluted philosophies (like jab, jab, jab, right hook) are, in my not so humble opinion, born out of a pathological fear of selling &#8211; not a \u201cmastery\u201d of it.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>c) Don\u2019t talk to me about the \u201cpsychology of buying\u201d.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Unlike those gurus, I have actually been professionally trained in this. As a lawyer dual-qualified in two jurisdictions, I have been professionally trained to use psychology to cross-examine witnesses, read between the lines, and negotiate.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>So, for the love of God, stop parroting Cialdini\u2019s Influence. There have been 18 years of academic research published since then.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>None of the above made me popular, so it\u2019s good to find camaraderie with like-minded marketers in Email Players.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>3) Not having to reinvent the wheel.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Studying your work helped me understand WHY the stuff I stumbled upon in my email writing was actually working. So it supplied the theory to a lot of what I had accidentally discovered.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Also, you\u2019re obviously incredibly talented and you\u2019ve been doing this for a lot longer than I have. So it\u2019s great to have the benefit of your experience, experimentation and thoughts instead of having to test everything myself.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>This allows me to focus my experiments. \u201cBen already tested this. So I can cross these four questions off my list. Let\u2019s do an experiment on this hypothesis instead, because I\u2019m curious about it and Ben doesn\u2019t seem to have tested that yet.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Anyway, all of this is a rather long-winded way of saying \u201cthank you.\u201d :))<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>All right, \u2018nuff said.<\/p>\n<p>The September \u201cEmail Players\u201d issue goes to the printer tomorrow.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to diddle around with substandard ways of trying to look like a nice guy and like you\u2019re not \u201coh noes!\u201d in business with something to sell that can solve a pain in their lives, have at it.<\/p>\n<p>The Alps and my other students will happily keep outselling you.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to join us, then there\u2019s no time to lose.<\/p>\n<p>Go to this link before the September issue goes to the printer tomorrow:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.EmailPlayers.com\"><strong>www.EmailPlayers.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ben Settle<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cEmail Players\u201d subscriber and lawyer Alp Turan exposes the pathological fear of selling that drives practically all the popular marketing trainings the goo-roo fanboys get chubbies over. There are at least 5 Valuable lessons (some obvious, some not so) embedded in his testimonial. See if you can catch them all: Here is how I would [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-12308","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-email-marketing"},"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12308","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12308"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12308\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12308"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12308"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12308"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}