{"id":13890,"date":"2019-09-27T13:55:34","date_gmt":"2019-09-27T20:55:34","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/?p=13890"},"modified":"2019-09-27T13:55:34","modified_gmt":"2019-09-27T20:55:34","slug":"secret-gurus-who-cuss-out-great-love-respect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/secret-gurus-who-cuss-out-great-love-respect\/","title":{"rendered":"Secret Gurus Who Cuss Out Great Love &#038; Respect"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>An inspiring secret guru story for the ages:<\/p>\n<p>A couple months ago, a (former) \u201cEmail Players\u201d subscriber kept repeatedly nagging me to look up and document some information he could easily have done himself by going to the sales letter he bought from. And, I decided it was easier to simply cancel him than waste time with his constant pestering.<\/p>\n<p>After which he spazzed out in magnificent secret guru glory:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>you know I teach classes and have hundreds of students and I never refuse to answer a simple little question like I asked you.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>YOU FUCKING SUCK! big time<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I\u2019ve seen your pictures and your a little bitch whose tune would drastically chance if we were face to face. You\u2019re a coward who would never pull some sh\u2014t like this if you were standing in person with me\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Hide behind your cowardly internet you faggot, because that is all you can do!<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>fuck off!<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>With Great Love &amp; Respect,<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>N<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>The \u201cGreat Love &amp; Respect\u201d signature is priceless.<\/p>\n<p>And that was just one of the drama queen emails my new pal sent.<\/p>\n<p>But, what\u2019s instructive here is his demonstration of secret guru projection. With these amazing people I have noticed everything they say about someone else is what they feel and\/or think about themselves.<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>&#8220;You suck!&#8221; = &#8220;I feel worthless and it makes me angry!&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;You&#8217;re a little bitch&#8221; = &#8220;I get called a little bitch all the time so I&#8217;ll do the same to feel better!&#8221;<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>&#8220;You&#8217;re a coward hiding behind your keyboard!&#8221; = &#8220;I cowardly hide behind my own keyboard but it makes me feel like a tough guy to project it on someone who was mean to me&#8230;&#8221;<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And so it goes&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Best part?<\/p>\n<p>The more self-loathing they are, the more these little doggies posture &amp; bare their baby teeth and nip. That&#8217;s why it&#8217;s all but impossible to get mad at them when you understand their tormented psyches, much less take them seriously, or do anything but pity them, while also shamelessly &amp; mercilessly exploiting their rage to make sales&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>More:<\/p>\n<p>The October \u201cEmail Players\u201d issue goes into great detail about these secret gurus \u2014 which are the business equivalent of the \u201csecret kings\u201d Vox Day described, who I learned much about this from reading about them \u2014 and how to identify, deal with, and profit from them.<\/p>\n<p>These secret gurus are a very special kind of troll.<\/p>\n<p>And, thus, they deserve extra special care and attention\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s where to subscribe while there is still a little bit of time to get this issue:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.EmailPlayers.com\"><strong>www.EmailPlayers.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ben Settle<\/p>\n<p>P.S. Another secret guru \u201ctell\u201d is the way they write large swaths of emotional text, as the one above did replying to one of my other emails.<\/p>\n<p>Truly fascinating creatures.<\/p>\n<p>And, if you know what to do with them, they are truly profitable, too&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>An inspiring secret guru story for the ages: A couple months ago, a (former) \u201cEmail Players\u201d subscriber kept repeatedly nagging me to look up and document some information he could easily have done himself by going to the sales letter he bought from. 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