{"id":18590,"date":"2026-02-24T12:39:27","date_gmt":"2026-02-24T12:39:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/?p=18590"},"modified":"2026-02-24T12:39:27","modified_gmt":"2026-02-24T12:39:27","slug":"my-public-love-letter-about-stefania","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/my-public-love-letter-about-stefania\/","title":{"rendered":"My public love letter about Stefania"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Elegant, cultured, RADIANT&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Stefania found a man with all these qualities and more, when she met me in my old elBenbo\u2019s Lair Facebook group back in 2016. And, believe it or not, the thing that \u201cturned\u201d her to my side of the Force was when we were all debating abortion in there.<\/p>\n<p>I did one of my \u201cnight time bombs.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>i.e., dropped that particular super-polarizing topic in there then went to bed.<\/p>\n<p>All I said that got everyone weeping &amp; gnashing their teeth was this quote from my friend Greg Perry:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>\u201cThe womb should be the safest place for a child\u201d<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>And just like that, Stefania became interested in me.<\/p>\n<p>In this case, because she\u2019d never thought about it that way before.<\/p>\n<p>i.e., I gave her options for thinking differently.<\/p>\n<p>After that, she grew even more interested as I continued to dispense what I referred to as \u201cthe Medicine\u201d &#8211; which was anything and everything I wrote about that dispelled the evil, anti-society, anti-nuclear family, anti-Christian drivel that was especially prominent back then, and that talking about could (and did, if not done with the right kind of tact &#8211; i.e., you had to be more shrewd than the Facebook serpent) get people cancelled for wrong think.<\/p>\n<p>Nowadays it&#8217;s not nearly as polarizing.<\/p>\n<p>But back then?<\/p>\n<p>It was not exactly safe or popular to do so.<\/p>\n<p>Much of what I teach in my paid Email Players newsletter is this way, too.<\/p>\n<p>To learn more about that go here:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.BenSettle.com\/alt\"><strong>www.BenSettle.com\/alt<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ben Settle<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Elegant, cultured, RADIANT&#8230; Stefania found a man with all these qualities and more, when she met me in my old elBenbo\u2019s Lair Facebook group back in 2016. 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