{"id":6185,"date":"2012-08-24T06:00:59","date_gmt":"2012-08-24T13:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/?p=6185"},"modified":"2012-08-24T06:00:59","modified_gmt":"2012-08-24T13:00:59","slug":"how-are-you-you-old-bastard","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/how-are-you-you-old-bastard\/","title":{"rendered":"How Are You, You Old Bastard?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Whoa!<\/p>\n<p>Yesterday&#8217;s &#8220;50 shades of gay&#8221; email riled up the peanut gallery.<\/p>\n<p>Hate mail galore!<\/p>\n<p>Some of it was truly amusing, too.<\/p>\n<p>My favorite was the gal who told me what a (and I quote) &#8220;bastard!&#8221; I am. (I couldn&#8217;t help but chuckle at the irony of her using &#8220;bastard&#8221; &#8212; see below for why.)<\/p>\n<p>Seriously.<\/p>\n<p>Where do these people come from?<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s like an endless source of entertainment.<\/p>\n<p>Another guy asked why I don&#8217;t use the word &#8220;Niger&#8221; (that&#8217;s how he spelled it) to be controversial.<\/p>\n<p>Kind of a weird question.<\/p>\n<p>After all, what&#8217;s controversial about a country in Africa?<\/p>\n<p>He also asked &#8220;how could gay not be derogatory?&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Well, let&#8217;s see, boss.<\/p>\n<p>The dictionary says the word means &#8220;foolish&#8221; or &#8220;stupid.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>It can also mean &#8220;lighthearted and carefree.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Or that someone&#8217;s a homosexual.<\/p>\n<p>Hmmm.<\/p>\n<p>Context &amp; common sense says when Jim Yaghi called FaceBook &#8220;gay&#8221; he meant foolish or stupid. Certainly not lighthearted and carefree. And obviously not homosexual.<\/p>\n<p>(After all, how can FaceBook be a homosexual?)<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s like the word &#8220;bastard.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Some of my haters like calling me that.<\/p>\n<p>The dictionary says it&#8217;s someone born from two parents who aren&#8217;t married to each other. But, it can also mean an unpleasant or despicable person. In Australia (and my friends from down under are free to berate me about this if I get it wrong) calling someone &#8220;you old bastard!&#8221; is a sign of affection.<\/p>\n<p>Those Australians are a bunch of jerks, eh?<\/p>\n<p>I mean, making fun of all those kids born out of wedlock&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Unfortunately, this is what society has come to.<\/p>\n<p>Everyone&#8217;s offeeeeeended by something.<\/p>\n<p>Whether it&#8217;s a word.<\/p>\n<p>Or an unpopular idea.<\/p>\n<p>Or even being wished a Merry Christmas at Wal-Mart.<\/p>\n<p>The solution?<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t worry about it.<\/p>\n<p>If someone is offended by something you say, it&#8217;s their problem. Some (most?) people like living with constant drama and angst and use any excuse they can find to get their &#8220;fix.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>The angsters aren&#8217;t going to censor me.<\/p>\n<p>If someone doesn&#8217;t like something I write, good!<\/p>\n<p>They can unsubscribe.<\/p>\n<p>I definitely don&#8217;t want them as customers.<\/p>\n<p>And, IMH(but accurate)O, neither should you.<\/p>\n<p>Hey!<\/p>\n<p>The next &#8220;Email Players&#8221; issue may be a tad controversial.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe, maybe not.<\/p>\n<p>Depends on the person.<\/p>\n<p>But it&#8217;ll be fun, either way, methinks.<\/p>\n<p>Subscribe here:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.EmailPlayers.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>www.EmailPlayers.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ben Settle<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Whoa! Yesterday&#8217;s &#8220;50 shades of gay&#8221; email riled up the peanut gallery. Hate mail galore! Some of it was truly amusing, too. My favorite was the gal who told me what a (and I quote) &#8220;bastard!&#8221; I am. (I couldn&#8217;t help but chuckle at the irony of her using &#8220;bastard&#8221; &#8212; see below for why.) 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