{"id":7506,"date":"2013-08-26T06:00:46","date_gmt":"2013-08-26T13:00:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/?p=7506"},"modified":"2013-08-26T06:00:46","modified_gmt":"2013-08-26T13:00:46","slug":"a-tint-of-arrogance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/a-tint-of-arrogance\/","title":{"rendered":"A Tint Of Arrogance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A website reader makes an astute observation:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>You amuse me with your choice, of words, very entertaining.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>And.. the tint of arrogance is good to hear also, too many lists I&#8217;m on are simply begging for my card details.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Not you! You almost make me feel grateful for the experience.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>I&#8217;m working my way to being able to afford your &#8220;Email Players&#8221;. I need to start making some dam money out here first.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Question.. can you really teach someone how to write?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>My English teacher never could after 10 years of trying, why should I believe you can do it? Or is it in all of us??<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Two things:<\/p>\n<p>1. You make a good observation about the emails not begging for your credit card, and coming from a position of &#8220;I&#8217;m doing you a favor&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Few &#8220;get&#8221; this part of email marketing.<\/p>\n<p>The best email marketers are not dicks.<\/p>\n<p>But, we don&#8217;t beg.<\/p>\n<p>We don&#8217;t use false modesty, either.<\/p>\n<p>And, we don&#8217;t kiss ass.<\/p>\n<p>Instead, we&#8217;re blunt, honest and unafraid to speak our minds. (Even if what we say is unpopular). We know our value, and, just as important, make sure our leads, prospects and customers <em>know<\/em> we know our value.<\/p>\n<p>You cannot &#8220;reverse engineer&#8221; that.<\/p>\n<p>Nor can you swipe it.<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">It&#8217;s either in you or it&#8217;s not<\/span>.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>And learning my system ingrains it into your psyche if you read, apply and practice it (via writing daily emails).<\/p>\n<p>This so-called arrogance scares the mush cookies.<\/p>\n<p>(It&#8217;s not arrogance, it&#8217;s just confidence.)<\/p>\n<p>And for them, there&#8217;s the door.<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t let it hit ya on the ass.<\/p>\n<p>Where people go wrong is trying to fake this attitude, going overboard trying to act &#8220;tough&#8221; (by insulting and talking down to people), and sounding like douche bags nobody wants to associate with much less buy from.<\/p>\n<p>2. As for your question:<\/p>\n<p>I don&#8217;t teach how to &#8220;write.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I teach how to communicate.<\/p>\n<p>Specifically, in emails (and sales letters).<\/p>\n<p>Your writing will get better automatically the more you do it, and slavishly following spelling and grammar rules is far less important than communicating in a way based on sound, principled thought and the way people like to be communicated to.<\/p>\n<p>This stuff goes beyond writing.<\/p>\n<p>It goes for all persuasive communication.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, that&#8217;s that.<\/p>\n<p>Next &#8220;Email Players&#8221; issue goes to print in 7 days.<\/p>\n<p>Subscribe here:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.EmailPlayers.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>www.EmailPlayers.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ben Settle<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A website reader makes an astute observation: You amuse me with your choice, of words, very entertaining. And.. the tint of arrogance is good to hear also, too many lists I&#8217;m on are simply begging for my card details. Not you! You almost make me feel grateful for the experience. I&#8217;m working my way to [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-7506","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","6":"category-email-marketing"},"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7506","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7506"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7506\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7506"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7506"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7506"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}