{"id":8565,"date":"2015-05-21T06:30:13","date_gmt":"2015-05-21T13:30:13","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/?p=8565"},"modified":"2015-05-21T06:30:13","modified_gmt":"2015-05-21T13:30:13","slug":"my-secret-romance","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bensettle.com\/blog\/my-secret-romance\/","title":{"rendered":"My Secret Romance"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A subscriber gots to know:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p><strong>Ben, I have to know if you get freaked out when writing\u00a0controversial emails? You must have a thick skin! Doesn&#8217;t the\u00a0feedback get nasty and angry? Does it freak you out sending emails\u00a0like that?<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Yeah I used to get nervous.<\/p>\n<p>And it can definitely be hair-raising.<\/p>\n<p>But now it&#8217;s just pure fun.<\/p>\n<p>I even have a sort of &#8220;secret romance&#8221; with controversy.<\/p>\n<p>And, get a thrill from the feedback.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s like the movie &#8220;True Romance&#8221;.<\/p>\n<p>Easily one of my all-time favorite flicks.<\/p>\n<p>There&#8217;s a scene where a mobster (ironically played by Mr. Soprano\u00a0himself &#8212; James Gandolfini) explains to the character he&#8217;s about\u00a0to whack how it feels to kill someone. The first time was hardest\u00a0&#8212; he puked the first time. The second time was also rough, with\u00a0the same feeling, but it was better this time &#8212; more &#8220;diluted.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Now?<\/p>\n<p><strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">He does it just to watch the expression change.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Freaky, eh?<\/p>\n<p>But it&#8217;s similar to how being controversial in emails is.<\/p>\n<p>The first few times put my stomach in knots.<\/p>\n<p>No doubt about it.<\/p>\n<p>It was nerve-wracking pushing &#8220;send.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>But each time it got easier.<\/p>\n<p>And easier&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>And easier&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Until now, I do it just to read the amusing replies from people who\u00a0are obviously way too wound up for their own good.<\/p>\n<p>Anyway, it&#8217;s not for the &#8220;thin skinned.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>But it can be extremely profitable.<\/p>\n<p>If you want to write emails like this, go to:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.EmailPlayers.com\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><strong>www.EmailPlayers.com<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Ben Settle<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A subscriber gots to know: Ben, I have to know if you get freaked out when writing\u00a0controversial emails? 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