An Email Players subscriber (who I don’t know wants me naming him) asks:
“…I’ve been dealing with a lot of self-doubt and overthinking. I know it’s not your topic and you don’t have this problem, but maybe you could suggest something to read on this—or offer some quick advice? (Besides your Villains books, which are great and I’m already rereading.) Thanks in advance!”
The good news:
There are very few self doubt and confidence problems that cannot be defeated by:
1. Focusing on the work and NOT the outcome/result
Using fitness as an example:
Focusing on eating right, getting sleep, gym, being circadian synced – the things you have 100% control over vs what the scale says, which you have zero control over unless you tinker with the scale’s computer or something. Now apply that approach to business – only focusing on the activity (writing each day, getting a little better today than you were yesterday, creating more offers, doing something to grow your list each day, etc) not the result and adapt to the areas of your life needing work.
2. Always outworking the other guy
You have 100% control over that, too.
And control = confidence in what you’re doing.
Easy?
Absolutely not.
And you’ll still have setbacks.
That is life.
But doing the above means you’ll always at least be in the game, making progress, be able to lift your head up with pride whatever the outcome. It also helps to think in terms of not success or failure — but results. Win or lose it’s just a result. Learn what you can, regroup, go after it again. Nobody learns anything from their successes, so might as well fook up as much as you’re going to and embrace it.
Who knows?
You might even catch yourself having some fun in the process…
Also:
Every time you’re under pressure, frustrated, emotional, prone to bad decisions… remind yourself, “it’s just a test, and I’m going to pass it. ” then proceed accordingly. I literally do this every time my 4 yr old has a dietary-caused (we have found there are some foods that set him off, where he’s almost like a different kid altogether) tantrum and it is surprisingly effective in getting your priorities straight, focus on point, and staying calm, cool, collected.
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