Here’s a zinger of a subscriber comment…
“Ben I’ve tried to befriend you on Facebook and noticed you take a very long time to befriend me back and don’t follow very many people on Twitter. No offense but you’re kind of a narcissist on social media, that’s my friendly opinion 🙂 “
Agreed.
But don’t take it personally.
It’s not you, it really IS me.
You see, a little while back one of my friends urged me to take one of those personality tests just for S&G’s and turns out I’m a dyed-in-the-wool “INTJ.”
Some people had been telling me this for years.
(Guess they were right…)
We’re basically what a lot of movie villains are based on.
Detached.
Aloof.
Always living inside our own minds.
In fact, most Hollywood stories do evolve around an evil villain (INTJ) threatening the old order, so a nice guy hero comes around to save it, then everyone is happy again to preserve the precious “status quo” which my brood tends to despise.
We can’t be bothered by social pleasantries, either.
Mindless chit-chat irritates us.
Conversations without a purpose are a waste of time.
And, we’re easily bored by people.
It’s not personal — we’re simply FAR more interested in the endless string of random problems/solutions/experiments/questions circulating around in our brains at any given time than making “small talk” on Facebook or Twitter or whatever. (It’s like Ralphie in “A Christmas Story” when he’s waiting to see Santa, his mind intensely focused on asking for the Red Ryder BB gun and his response to the girl hitting on him in line is… “leave me a lone, I’m… thinking…” heh)
I suppose this carries over to social media, too.
Frankly, I find a lot of it amusing.
Especially the social media goo-roos with 900 photos of themselves, with 350 videos, etc, constantly prattling on about their feelings and being “social”, blah blah blah
Hey, we ALL have annoying faults.
So let me make mine abundantly clear:
I’m not social.
I’m quite antisocial.
Which is probably why I prefer Twitter — since it’s only 140 characters and it forces people to get to the point, with less noise, drama queening, and grandstanding.
So that’s the deal.
Never take my social media aloofness personal.
If anything, it’s all in my head…
Ben Settle
P.S. In my humble (but 100% biased) opinion… INTJ’s make the best email marketers, too.
I’ll explain why some day.
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