So the paradox goes:
Every seminar you’ve done, you never strike me as this introverted loner guy you claim to be. You have a magic pull with the audience and they laugh at all your jokes. It feels so natural.
Are you secretly an extrovert, or have you picked up how to do talks/seminars so easily (while also disliking it) at a certain place, or person?
Or, 3rd option, have you just positioned yourself in such a way that to come watch you speak, they’d first have to go deep into your world and realize you’re actually pretty likeable – effectively culling the heard to get only the best and most engaged (the ones you’re most comfortable with) in your world to show up?
Let’s just get one thing out of the way off the bat:
I hate going anywhere.
Frankly, I dislike even leaving the house.
I haven’t even bothered to get the government’s stupid RealID or renew my passport. And I’m very much like how Superman’s mom Martha Kent describes Jonathan Kent in the Batman vs Superman movie:
CLARK KENT: How come Dad never left Kansas?
MARTHA KENT: Well, he just…You know how he was. “What do I need to travel for? I’m already there.”
This does, however, pose some annoying problems.
Like, for example:
A few years ago I did a live Q&A to a customer’s audience, and I was astonished by how excited, talkative, and all-around social they were compared to when I do live calls to my own boys & ghouls, who I sometimes wonder if they have a pulse at all, due to being introverts like me who just lurk and haunt zoom but never say anything, ask anything, engage with anything.
It’s why I don’t do much live stuff, incidentally:
All the dayem introverts.
I would do more live calls, training, whatever if I had lots of extroverts in my World.
But the vast majority are boring introverts (like me), who suck all the fun out of it.
Incidentally, the late Johnny Carson was a notorious introvert.
He we so introverted he got nearly paralyzed with nerves before each and every show he did during his 30+ year reign as the undisputed High King of Late Night TV entertainment. He was “the guy” who all the other A-list celebrities would clamor to meet and rub shoulders with at parties, but who he’d avoid, and often do the Irish Goodbye preferring solitude. He was also the guy whose “altar” all other late night TV comedians would bow at, despite being an introvert.
Obviously, he didn’t let his introversion get in his way.
And if you’re like that, you need not let it get in your way either.
Although, one of the beauties of email is you can do it regardless if you’re a social butterfly or a hopeless shut-in.
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Ben Settle
